S18 E21 - Friendship in the Lord: Appreciation and Reconciliation (Chapters 5 & 6)
About This Episode
In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and reflect on how loving appreciation and reconciliation are the places where friendship matures. We talk about why healthy adult friendships draw us closer to the Lord, how the unique gifts of women and men reveal different facets of God's love, and how learning to behold another's beauty without trying to grasp or possess it calls forth our true identity. We also discuss the importance of recognizing how we've hurt others, expressing sincere sorrow, and allowing others to do the same. As we bring our wounds, suffering, and sin into the love of Christ, we discover that the very places we fear most can become the biggest places of resurrection.
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Show Notes
Announcement:
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Discussion Questions:
When have you experienced your own uniqueness in a friendship? Did you experience your uniqueness as a gift to give or as an insecurity to hide?
How is the Lord inviting you to more freely receive your friends rather than possessing them?
How have you participated in belittling or sarcasm in your relationships?
How have you participated in or been on the receiving end of judgment within friendships?
Where does the Lord want to love you into a place of freedom?
Journal Questions:
Am I maturing as a friend?
What does the Holy Spirit want to teach me through my friendships?
Am I currently experiencing conflict or frustration in a relationship? What is the pain or trigger I feel beneath the conflict?
Can I receive the gift of beauty without trying to grasp or possess it?
How have I failed to uphold the dignity of my friends?
Am I experiencing the fullness of who I am?
What parts of myself am I hiding from my relationships?
Quote to Ponder:
“The intimacy of adult friendship in the Spirit can teach us to aspire to the fullest possible intimacy with the Lord himself. The tenderness of one friend toward another is the image of God’s own tenderness, when the friends truly love each other in the Spirit.”
Scripture for Lectio Divina:
“Therefore as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly beloved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues, put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”